Deciding between a big wedding and a small wedding or elopement: pros and cons of each

April 29, 2021 WEDDINGS

If you’re newly engaged and working through some of your wedding planning, we all know the big question is, do we have a big wedding or a small wedding/elopement? You know that your family and friends will share ALL of their opinions on this, but let’s consider the pros and cons of each first and foremost. After all, at the end of the day, all that matters is that you and your partner are happy and married!

Choosing between a big wedding and a small wedding or elopement: pros and cons of each

What are the pros and cons of a big wedding?

Let’s start with the pros of having a big wedding:

  • You’re able to go all out and invite as many people as you want to celebrate your big day
  • Everyone will likely be talking about your wedding for years and years to come as being one of the best parties they’ve ever been to
  • You can plan on securing a venue that accommodates your long guest list without any worries
  • If you’re feeling overwhelmed, you can hire a wedding planner to take the stress of planning a big wedding off your shoulders
  • It’s fun to go all out and host a big wedding where everyone can get all dressed up and party
  • It’s a great way to get all of your family and friends together in one place at one time to celebrate this joyous occasion


The cons of having a big wedding:

  • It’s expensive, and depending on your budget it may not make sense for you to have a big wedding
  • It can be overwhelming when you get caught up in all the wedding planning details and lose focus of what’s most important
  • On your wedding day, it’s hard to make a point to speak with each and every guest that attends
  • You may regret having a big wedding afterward because it all went by in the blink of an eye and you weren’t able to slow down and enjoy it
  • The day goes by extremely fast when you have so much going on that you can’t focus on the little things
  • You feel like to “have to” have a big wedding just to please everyone else
Choosing between a big wedding and a small wedding or elopement: pros and cons of each

What are the pros and cons of a small wedding or an elopement?

The pros of having a small wedding or an elopement:

  • You have more freedom with your budget to focus on what’s most important to you and your partner
  • You’re able to focus on inviting your core group of friends and family and not be overwhelmed by an endless guest list
  • If there are specific things you want to splurge on like florals or wedding photography, you have more freedom to do so
  • You’ll likely remember more from your small wedding or elopement because you’ll have fewer distractions around you on that day
  • You’re able to focus on talking to each guest on your wedding day and not feel like you have to talk to 100+ people all in one day
  • Looking back, most people who had large weddings say if they were to get married all over again they would make their wedding smaller


The cons of having a small wedding or elopement:

  • You feel like some people missed out on celebrating with you on your wedding day
  • You don’t want people to be upset that you didn’t invite them to your wedding
  • You may look back and wish you had a large wedding after all 
  • Weddings are meant to be a huge celebration and you want to showcase that
  • Most of us only plan to get married once, so why not go all out

The moral of the story is, whether you’re planning to have a big wedding or a small wedding/elopement, the choice should be made between you and your partner. Don’t worry about pleasing everyone else and thinking you need to make one decision over the other just to make everyone else happy. Getting married is a huge deal and the celebration you choose to have to honor the partnership between you and your significant other is wildly important. 


I’d love to represent you and your partner on your wedding day as your photographer no matter what type of wedding you choose to have. If you still have questions you want to talk through before making that choice, I’d love to chat with you!

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